 My friend Kevin and I were sitting around drinking coffee talking about his last relationship that has just ended and he made a rather interesting statement that I had not really thought about, but can definitely see the merit in that statement.
He was talking about a girl he was just sort of seeing a few years back. She was a great person, great friend, good looking and just the perfect package in so many ways. She was just not quite his type. There was something missing from their interactions that stopped him from really being completely attracted to her. Having ended that relationship, he said his primary emotion was guilt. Guilt!
I did not expect that to be the case, but he says that it happens often in life that you meet someone that you SHOULD be completely in love with, someone who is so completely what you want, someone that is everything that you are looking for and more, when you come to terms with the fact that there is just something missing, you feel guilty that you are not more attracted to that person.
I thought about it and realized that that was the same feeling I had when I broke up with someone about a year ago. They were great. Attractive, intelligent, thoughtful, devoted, and everything I was looking for, yet there was something missing that I couldn't quite put my finger on and I had to end things. I remember the feeling of "Why am I doing this to someone that is so good to me and good FOR me?" running through my head. At the time, I remember feeling guilty that I was so superficial that something I couldn't even name was stopping a wonderful thing from happening.
I just thought I'd throw that out there to you all and see if that's something you've seen, felt, or been on the other side of.
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